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Please mind your manners Part II

07/08/2009

diningMind your manners Part II

Posting the article on table setting and etiquette, made me realized that people really do read blogs these days. Most of the comment I got are from other countries, which is very interesting to me.

After writing those posts, I confess that I found myself noticing other people more. This is very bad, but sometimes I really can’t help it, especially if they start to speak in Spanish and I don’t understand anything anymore. Instead it made me think of that article , and relating it to how people behaved.  This is the second part of that post. Again, forgive me if I might be mocking sometimes, I don’t mean to really. I apologize if I am hurting anyone who reads this. It just makes me think that we are supposed to be very civilized with all the progress that the world is doing, and yet it is not working for others even with all the available information on the internet. I am not an expert on these things, that’s why I do research too. While I write these I am learning as well, and reminding myself of the rules and guidelines that I already know.  So now I shall begin with the continuation of my first article.

Further etiquette on dining:

Cleaning your teeth

-  One evening in a restaurant, I observed this couple on another table. The man seems to court the girl.  Usually at this stage, both parties try to impress each other. Then suddenly I saw the girl cleaning her   teeth with her fingernails!! Sometimes others can do this without being too obvious but this was another case. It was really obvious. I must say I felt sorry for both of them.

So what should one do if this happens? In this situation, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and clean your teeth there. Also applying make up should be done in washroom as well and not on the table.

Grilled Salmon Meal Removing the bone

-  Accidentally eating a bone from fish, chicken or simply something unpleasant, is common for most of us. So to take it out and move the bone with your tongue and place it on the fork, and place it on the side of your plate. As this is not accepted in some countries, you can also use your napkin in place of the fork. Try to do it as discreetly as possible.  To be safe, if I am in a restaurant, I order something that is easier to eat. Like a boneless chicken, or some pasta so I don’t have to worry about eating bones.

The bread

-  I was twelve when I first visited Spain. During the meal, I saw that they placed the bread on the table. No bread baskets, no plates, nothing. That was the first time I have seen something like that. Another culture and another manner of eating. Now that I am here in Argentina, it is the same thing. The bread is placed on the table again. I honestly, don’t mind that much since that is their tradition but there is one thing that annoys me, “the crumbs”. It’s really annoying to have all those crumbs all over the table and especially if you are the one who is cleaning up.

In formal dining, bread is served on a plate or in a basket. Break the bread into smaller pieces, just enough for a bite or two.  You use your fingers to do the breaking. You butter the piece you just pulled and then eat it. DO NOT butter the whole piece of  bread all at once and much more eating it directly as a whole. Don’t think of it as a burger!!!

The Seasoning

salt and pepper

-  My husband always mentioned that a lot of the people here in Argentina put salt on their food without even tasting it first. I guess that must have been a habit for them to do so. However it is quite absurd to add salt without even knowing if it really lacks salt. Perhaps the food is already salty!!! So, it is just right to try your food first before adding anything.

Mobile Phones kid-phone

-  It is very impolite to call, text or play with your phone on the table. It’s better to put in on silent mode. If the call is really important excuse yourself and step outside to take your call.

Talking and the elbows

-  This will be last and my favorite among all. I am sure that your very own mother or your teacher said this at some point.  “Do not talk when your mouth is full”!!! The other one is “Keep elbows off the table”!!!

Acknowledgement:

Thank you to google and the people who took these pictures. Please allow me to post them :  )

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Please mind your manners – Part I

28/07/2009

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-  Today I was thrilled that I got a comment on this blog!!!I haven’t written so much stuff and that’s the reason why I didn’t ask my friends to look at it yet. However, I am glad that what I wrote was helpful because the idea of this blog is to help others. In connection to my first post on proper table setting, I shall now talk about table manners!!! This topic is very long, I shall discuss the basic rules first.

-  One of the ways to get to know a person is eating out with them. Of course what I have to say maybe a bit discriminating for others, but this is very important to avoid embarrassing situations when dining. Many years ago my brother told me, that the way a certain individual eats is a mirror to his personality. Those words were always a reminder whenever I see someone who eats in a very disturbing manner.
The point of dining etiquette is to make a person comfortable and not uncomfortable. Confidence is essential to personal and professional success.

The NAPKIN

-  As soon as you are seated in a restaurant, you may unfold the napkin and place it on your lap. The waiters will do it for you in other places but it is not rude to do it on your own. In a party, wait for your host to pick up his napkin. This is your signal to do the same.

-  The napkin will remain on your lap until the meal is finish. If you excuse yourself, loosely fold the napkin and place it to the left or right side of the plate.
Do not use the napkin to BLOW your nose!!! Napkins are used to gently blot your mouth.
After the meal, place the napkin semi- folded on the left side of the plate. Do not crumple or twist it. The napkin should not be placed on the chair.

How do you know when to eat?

-  In a restaurant, wait till everyone gets their order.
-  In a party, wait till the host picks up his cutlery. Unless the host tells you to eat first, then it’s fine to go ahead.

Silverware and ways to eat

-  The general rule for a traditional place setting that I discussed in my previous blog is that forks are on the left of the plate and knives and spoons are on the right. The dessert spoon and fork are above the plate or comes with the dessert. The silver is placed in order of use. Use the silverware farthest from your plate first. Remember the rule that you should begin outside and work in.
You must not forget that solids are on the left and liquids are on the right. Any food or dish on your left is yours, and any glass on your right is yours.

There are two methods of using the fork and knife:

-  American Style: The knife is on your right and fork in left hand. After slicing your food, place the knife on the edge of the plates, with blades facing in. Then eat your food by switching your fork to the right.( unless you are left handed).
-  European or Continental Style: The knife is on your right hand and fork in left hand. In this method, the fork remains on the left. There is no switching involved.

Using the soup spoon:

-  This is such a common mistake! I have seen this error so many times .So you dip the spoon into the soup, moving it away from the body, until it is two –thirds full, then sip the liquid without slurping from the side of the spoon. Do not insert the whole spoon inside your mouth!!! And do not dip it towards your body. Remember to dip it outwards. You may tilt the bowl slightly away from the body to get the last drops of the soup.

Rules on the spoon if you are Asian:

-  You may use the spoon for more casual dining, but it’s more appropriate to use fork and knife for formal dining. It may be easier to use the spoon specially if you are eating rice, but to be proper is never easy and quick, one must do things gently and elegantly : )

To signal that you are done with the meal:

-  Rest your fork and knife on top of the plate, in a a five o’clock position. The fork in American Style is tines up, European or Continental Style is tines down. Any unused silverware is simply left on the table.

American Style

American style

European Style

european style

References:

Table manners for dummies
Etiquette with Miss Janice
www.whatscookingamerica.net

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